“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.”
– Maya Angelou
Everyone wants #success in their life, in one for or another. Some aspire to be financially wealthy, others want fame and notoriety, and others aspire to establish a family. Sadly, not everyone sees their #dreams become a reality and bargain their hopes to accept their life the way it is. With the right #goals, #attitude, and diligence, these simple steps can put you on the path to success.
1. Define your goals
Before you start working towards your goals, it’s important to define what you want. Last year I set 3 goals for myself, be in a good relationship, lose weight, and pay down my debt. For me, my goals reflected what I wanted, needed, or what was missing in life. In this stage its ok to be broad, think of this as the brainstorming phase. Don’t overburden yourself with too many goals, you don’t want to burn yourself out. Plus some goals may actually assist you to attain other goals.
2. Be specific and pin a date to it
Now flesh out and define exactly what you want and when you want it by. Make sure it’s something realistic, everyone wants to be a millionaire overnight but unless you happen to get the winning powerball ticket it’s probably not happening so quickly. I started my goals in January 2013 and thought, realistically how many months do I need to reach each goal. For example, in my goal to be in a good relationship, I initially gave myself four months, to find that special person. I also defined her as “someone I can communicate openly and honestly with me.” Four months, in retrospect, sounds unrealistic to me in retrospect, but know when your goal seems off track you can always adjust the date. This is meant to be a living document to follow and should be adjusted accordingly.
3. Create an action plan
Decide what you have to do in order to obtain this goal. Break it down by month or by day. This will help you keep on track and allow you to diagnose how you are doing. You may have to give up or reduce activities that are not hampering your goals or occupying your free time but if the goal is important enough, it won’t be an issue for you. For my goal of losing weight, I stopped playing video games and eating unhealthy. When I had the urge to skip the gym or eat something unhealthy I asked myself how this will affect my overall outcome. I imagined myself wearing a bathing suit and asking if that slice of pizza or round of Mass Effect 3 was worth it. I found myself at the gym 15 minutes later, every time.
Sometimes when you put your intentions into writing the universe finds a way of making them happen. For my goal of being in a good #relationship, I joined match.com after being #encouraged to do so by a pair of friends who met #online. I was nervous at first but I received a sign when I found I could get 50% cash back for joining match from my website www.philtasticshopper.com. To this day, I tell my #girlfriend I got her half off. 🙂
4. Print it. Display it. Share it.
Type it and print out multiple copies. A thought doesn’t become an idea until it’s meditated on, an idea doesn’t become a possibility until it’s in writing, and possibility isn’t a goal until it’s in writing. Think of it like a contract between your current self and your #future self. “I’ll do everything I can do to reach these goals and be this person if you promise to put the work into it.” Display it where you’ll see it every day. I hung my goal #statement in my cubicle and work and read it every day at least once. I also saved it on my phone so whenever I checked the time my phone reminded me it was time to work on my goals – no matter what the clock said.
5. Share it
People will be excited for you and will do whatever they can to encourage you to reach your goals. I put my goals as my cover on my Facebook page and posted them up. I received a lot of likes and many comments from friends. It’s also a way of keeping you #honest, people will keep asking how you’re doing. It’s a great motivator. I also shared my written goals with my parents who aren’t on Facebook. My Dad even set me up with a beautiful succssessful woman he knew. It didn’t work out romantically but she’s a good #friend today. Ultimate #support system.
Now that you know what you want and how you want to do it, just go ahead and do it. You’ve taken the time to create the blueprint, now just put it into action. If you don’t see results right away or get discouraged remember you can and should adjust your goals accordingly. This is a life change, it takes #time and #energy. Good luck and let me know how you do, I would love to help you in any way I can.
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